Yell and Shout, Cry and Pout: A Kid’s Guide to Feelings is an essential guidebook for adults in steering children through the confusing behaviors that emotions evoke. When you understand the purpose of emotions, behavior becomes understandable. Each of the eight emotions is clearly defined thorough vignettes and illustrations, keeping both adult and child captivated, thus creating an opportune time for discussion. By recognizing that all humans experience these emotions throughout their lives, the book provides a true sense of comfort. Emotions are not to be shunned, but rather embraced and explained to provide a positive development environment for all children.
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The Search for Primary Emotions by Peggy Kruger Tietz
As a psychologist, I have seen, over the years, a lot of families and children. For many years I did play therapy, where children could act out the things that were bothering them. I was often struck by the intensity of their feelings, and of their enthusiasm to express them in that setting. Often their play mirrored what was happening in their lives. As I got to know the kids, I could share with their parents ways that they could help their kids express themselves at home. Often this meant helping parents get comfortable with their own emotions and become more aware of what attitudes about emotions they were sending to their kids. It was not uncommon to find that parents had certain emotions they really didn’t want their kids to express. Not surprisingly these disallowed emotions were exactly the ones being expressed in the play room.
Wanting to be more helpful to parents, I often recommended books, but not infrequently had trouble finding exactly what I was looking for. There were good books about a specific feeling, or books about a day filled with many feelings, but none about all our primary feelings. And none really explained the purpose of each of those primary feelings. I was disappointed because I had a clear idea of what I wanted and what might be helpful to the parents I was working with.
So I was prompted to start researching and thinking seriously about creating the book I was envisioning. I wanted the book to be simple and educational. I wanted it to be fun and full of stories and illustrations that kids could relate to. I wanted it to include interactive questions so kids could talk about their own emotions while reading the book.
None of this was as simple as I thought. First there was no common agreement about which emotions were primary. I ended us using Paul Ekman’s research which was exactly what Peter Docter, artistic director of Inside Out did. For artistic reasons Docter only used five emotions and I ended up with eight: the six Paul Ekman found to be cross-culturally valid, and two more that his student, Dacher Keltner considered primary.
I was also surprised at how much work it took to be clear about the description of each emotion. Initially Fear and Anger looked a lot alike, and I had to go back and do more research until I understood how they were different.
I also had to pull together a lot of information to create the examples of situations that most commonly trigger each emotion. I initially created shapes for each emotion, but found that cumbersome; instead, I chose a color to identify and express each emotion. All in all, I’m very pleased that the book turned out to be packed with useful information, and that parents and kids have found it fun and useful.
Dr. Peggy Kruger Tietz is a licensed psychologist and maintains a private practice in Austin, Texas. She sees a wide range of children with normal developmental problems as well as children who have experienced trauma. Her Ph.D is in developmental psychology from Bryn Mawr College. Before entering private practice Dr. Tietz treated children in multiple settings, such as family service agencies and foster care. Dr. Tietz, trained at the Family Institute of Philadelphia, and then taught there. She specializes in seeing children individually, as well as, with their families. She has advanced training in Play Therapy as well as being a certified practitioner of EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing, for children and adults). She has conducted workshops on parenting, sibling relationships, and emotional literacy.
Her latest book is Yell and Shout Cry and Pout: A Kid’s Guide to Feelings.
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